How to Want Your Success and No One Else’s

On LinkedIn, there nearly millions of titles you could give yourself for the work you do in the world.

You could be a Chief Empathy Officer or Code Geek, a Tribe Leader or a Uncaged Artist.

And you wouldn’t be wrong.

Your God-given right to express and take ownership of your gifts is yours to name, yours to claim powerfully.

What’s for you is for you and no one can take it from you. Only you.

It has taken me a while to grasp the concept of wanting my own success. And it is something I still struggle with, if I’m being completely honest.

It’s quite marvelous to live in a time like this.

Oh, what a time to be alive.

It’s pretty crazy that we get to do the defining of ourselves, rather than others doing it for us.

Even if you don’t own your own business, you can still own your own success. Actually, it’s quite imperative to.

And you shouldn’t want it any other way anyway.

Because the fact is, no one’s growth has the power to take away from your own. And if it does, than it wasn’t true growth. It was deceptive.

So, how do you want your own success?

Well, that starts first with defining what success means to you.

Yes, it’s been said millions of times — because truth is always in season.

Take the time to brainstorm and write down, in vivid detail, what success looks like for you.

If success to you is a specific dollar amount, write down the exact number you want to make.

Whether you want to live location independently and island-hop for 12 months or live in a cottage with no neighbors, be bold about writing what’s fulfilling to you.

This is not a year of shirking away what you want. 2019 didn’t come for you to be hiding again.

Ok, now write it down.

Secondly, come to the understanding that no one’s success is yours and your success is no one else’s.

And neither are in competition with each other.

This is very hard for us grown, experienced, well-lived adults to understand: another’s success is not your failure.

I’m not sure who first conjured up this false math equation. But whoever you are, you’ve ruined us — but not completely.

Now, let’s all take a collective oath to root for others’ successes.

We want to see others win.

Because it means there is more room for unique gifts and voices and offerings. When someone breaks through a space, it gives way to more originality.

So, in a way, other people’s successes are helpful, and inspiring if not anything else.

And when you genuinely want to see others win and you celebrate their successes, your success becomes an echo of it.

Like attracts like.

You won’t be able to help being successful in what you do.

Is this approach bulletproof?

No, but we need more conversations about how to approach our own paths.

We need more recognition that there is a distinction between what’s yours and what’s mine.

Because that’s how we find what truly is ours.

Now, go out and celebrate your own successes and others’ successes.

I’m rooting for you.

Thank you for reading.

I write for creatives with big ideas and even bigger inner-critics | Husband, dad, mango-enthusiast | Connect with me here: https://bit.ly/2VOg4sU

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