Don’t become a writer.
Now, I don’t mean don’t write. There’s nothing wrong with writing.
I love writing.
In fact, I encourage people to write if they love to. I have many articles about writing and why you should do it. Go crazy!
What I’m more concerned with is the sad, over-obsession with becoming a writer. The writer, or would-be-writer, who allows their dream to override action.
The writer who struggles to write because her thoughts are consumed by “how to be a writer” checklists.
She doesn’t know what she’s interested in. …
You’re hard on yourself. I know because I used to be hard on myself too. Especially when it came to achieving certain creative and business goals for myself.
And right now, mid-year, you’re probably thinking of how you can make up for the lost time. You’re probably thinking about how you’ll bulldoze your way to your writing goals.
And sometimes, focusing on said goals can suck all of the fun and enjoyment out of the writing. Because you’re focused less on the journey and more on the destination. I’m not going to tell you that the destination isn’t worth it…
One of the most challenging things about growing as a writer is overcoming the invisible, mental stumbling block of your own expectations.
If you have a strong vision of who you “should be” as a writer, the climb towards that can be both exhilarating and discouraging.
It is tough. Because you want to write freely. But you also have goals for yourself. You want to hold yourself accountable without giving yourself a short leash.
Many new writers have trouble writing because they:
Too Much Thinking, Not Enough Action
That’s the mantra of many creatives. Too many creatives, in fact.
Why do we hold to ideas like they are our children? Afraid to let them run, jump, and play without boundaries.
We think entirely too much about what we want to do, what we want to create, and how it will make us feel in the process.
Now, I’m not discounting that these things aren’t important. What I am getting at is, however, these things aren’t as monumental as we make them out to be.
They have very little to do with the…
A few months ago, I started my Jeep and the dashboard was a slot machine.
I had a few options:
So, I took the easiest route, picked up my phone, and almost immediately a YouTube video appeared in the search results.
It was tailored to the exact problem I had. And within a few minutes, my issue was solved. The car was fine.
Thus, I owed a debt of gratitude to a complete…
You don’t know how many tomorrows you have left. In fact, they don’t really even exist. They’re something we can only hope for. Something out of our control.
If you risk the chance of putting your creative work in the hands of tomorrow, well tomorrow has no hands.
You don’t know what circumstances you’ll have to face. And, inevitably something will come up.
Whether it’s an emergency or you’re just downright feeling unmotivated. Many obstacles will find their way into your well-crafted plans — and they don’t care.
That’s why it’s imperative to not give yourself an out for creating…
Do you want to become yourself?
I know, this might be an odd question. Because you’re probably thinking, “Well, why wouldn’t I?”
But I ask this because you’d be surprised. Many people don’t think through this lens.
Especially when it comes to our creativity and the things we want to do. For many of us, the connection between what we do and who we’re becoming isn’t clear.
To illustrate, let me give you a common example. The aspiring writer toils, plots, and hesitates. Day after day, he thinks, “I can’t wait to become a full-time writer.”
He casts off his…
Some years ago, a coaching client told me she was deeply worried and dealt with lots of anxiety over the creative process.
“I just can’t write,” she said. Her emphasis on “can’t” was as if it was law.
Through our conversation, I gave her an assignment: “If you can’t write, describe what you’re feeling. But on paper.”
It’s what I now call prescriptive writing. As in, writing meant to address the current concern or issue amidst you. I recommended it because it’s worked for me.
It may sound simple or silly, but you’d be surprised how many people bypass this…
Writing isn’t like eating croissants.
It isn’t like pancakes or waffles or whatever your decadent pleasure.
There’s no need to feel guilty about enjoying writing for the sake of writing. You don’t need to make a lot of money from your writing to be worthy of writing.
Earlier this year, my family and I visited Paris, and I ate more croissants than I could count. It made me want to run a 5K every day.
This is a natural reaction — extreme or not — to an overindulgence issue.
But when I overindulge in writing (if that even exists), there’s…
On Medium, I made $8.37 in the month of October. Here’s why I’m celebrating:
While you might scoff at the above stats, this is big for me. In the past, I would’ve quit by now. And I’d have good reason to quit.
That is if all I saw was the monetary rewards — or lack thereof.
“Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success.” ― Napoleon Hill
But I’m measuring…